Comments on: Co-Sleeping and Other Politically Correct Parenting Concepts

By: m&m

m&m — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 19:37:52 +0000

Cheri prob breastfed all of her kids till they were 4.

By: When Generalizations Attack | NewsReal Blog

When Generalizations Attack | NewsReal Blog — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 13:36:44 +0000

[...] I saw this reply by the Birkels to Suzanne Venker’s post about kids sleeping with their parents as an example of permissive and “politically [...]

By: Peachey

Peachey — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 01:08:28 +0000

Swemson, give it up. Cheri is a loon that misunderstands the difference between parent and child. The basis of her blathering is that you have to have hypersensitivity and the willness to forgo establishing structure, rules and consequences in the home. Afterall, we know that structure and rules stunt the creativity and a childs growth don't we Cheri?? So Cheri, the next time that you hear your child or one of their friends claim that they don't have restrictions because their parents "don't care", it literally means that their parents have not made the effort to care and be parents.When my children were small, I did not fortunately have to spank them. It only took "the look" to straighten out the behavior or attitude. This being said, it was accomplished by consistent enforced rules, with clearly defined consequences for disobedience. Co-sleeping? Give me a break. The act of learning to sleep alone is the first step in learning autonomy and the responsibilities that come with it.

By: Swemson

Swemson — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 20:25:25 +0000

I finally figured that out.

By: ExplodeingM

ExplodeingM — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 20:11:14 +0000

I have decided to dislike you Cheri.

By: MMcFM

MMcFM — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 17:12:46 +0000

How did my parents' parents do it? They nursed the kids in the big bed, and when the kids were weaned they shared a bed with their siblings until they left home to fight WWII. It was the Depression, and they raised large families, because there was no birth control, on modest incomes with few amenities. My Dad's generation turned out hard-working, determined, thrifty, but generous to those in need.

It's not the sleeping arrangements that renders a generation incapable (although it can seriously impede the intimacy of marriage); it's verbal, emotional and physical (a thoughtfully applied swat does not count as abuse) abuse, too much free time applied poorly, no clear moral and ethical teaching, and lack of appropriate opportunities to grow responsibility, confidence and capability at a young age. Too much 'helicopter parenting,' criticism of every decision they make (they learn from their mistakes), and too many unearned rewards are destroying kids.

By: Cheri

Cheri — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 16:52:36 +0000

I see, that most of the people here aren't sensitive or caring parents or people, and for the record, I do have 6 kids sweet'ums, your wife must not have breastfed her kids because breastfeeding moms (and not the 6 week token breastfeeders) sleep next to their children because it's the natural thing to do. I bet you're a proud American sweet'ums, and guess what, all of your founder fathers were slept next to by their parents. Sick bastards. Formula companies and crib companies LOVE parents like you. You're exactly what the public schools want. FOLLOWERS. Climb out of the box you live in.

By: Suzanne Venker

Suzanne Venker — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 15:21:15 +0000

For those who are interested: Google No Bull Mom (or click on my name, I think that takes you there) for a great piece called "Mean Mothers."

By: stacy

stacy — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 14:32:25 +0000

I agree Buck. I have 7 kids ALL of whom sleep in their own beds. You have to be willing to bite the bullet and listen to some crying at first- but kids know when you are serious about something. Potty training is the same. I've met three year olds in diapers-I mean "pull-ups" which tells me that the parents are run by the kids. People who say that it is loving to have kids in their bed must not value their marriage much. Do these parents go to bed at the same time as their kids or just let them stay up?

By: Frank(ly) M'Dear

Frank(ly) M'Dear — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 13:49:54 +0000

Cheri:

You "co-slept" with all your kids? Then you failed them all, dear, every one of them. You should be ashamed instead of crowing your sanctimonuious twaddle here…

By: Frank(ly) M'Dear

Frank(ly) M'Dear — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 13:47:54 +0000

Cheri:

I suspect YOU are the one without kids, sweet'ums. My wife and I have produced six children, and every one of them were in their own beds every night. "Co-sleeping" is just "bad parenting", Cheri. BTW, all six of our kids today are aged between 23 and 33, hold postgrad degrees, and are professionally employed in senior positions. As a parent, we have a "track record", Cheri. I will take out "track record" over your rants any day…

By: Frank(ly) M'Dear

Frank(ly) M'Dear — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 13:44:13 +0000

Cheri:

Get a grip, sweet'ums. Sleeping with one's own children is WAY BEYOND THE PALE and far past the "loving parent template". But when such behaviors also mean the abdication of conjugal life, a line has been crossed. Jack didn't divorce his wife (from what I've read), which is frankly admirable of him. I suspect Frank loves his kids – probably a lot more than he loves their mother nowadays.